The Therapist Who Goes Deeper When Others Stop

I’m Dr. Wonbin, a queer couples therapist who helps LGBTQ+ clients—especially those from marginalized cultural, racial, and immigrant backgrounds—come home to themselves. My work is grounded in the belief that your pain makes sense—not because something is wrong with you, but because of what you’ve had to carry to survive.

My clients are often the ones who “get it done”—the caregivers, the overthinkers, the perfectionists who’ve mastered how to blend in and make everyone else comfortable. But under that polished surface is often a quiet ache: anxiety, shame, or a deep disconnection from self. If that resonates, I want you to know: you're not alone, and you're not too much.

In therapy, I blend Internal Family Systems (IFS) and narrative-informed approaches to help you reconnect with the parts of yourself that have been exiled, hidden, or silenced. Together, we’ll get curious about your inner world—not to judge it, but to understand how your inner parts have protected you, and what they need to finally feel safe enough to rest.

We’ll also explore how systems like racism, family expectations, cultural erasure, and societal norms have shaped your story—and how to reclaim that story in your own voice.

I believe therapy is a space where you don’t have to explain your existence. It’s a space where your full self—messy, tender, brilliant—is welcome.

Anxiety Therapy

Anxiety doesn’t always look like panic attacks. Sometimes, it’s the constant overthinking. The racing thoughts at night. The perfectionism that keeps you hustling. The knot in your stomach when you disappoint someone. The fear that you’re too much—or not enough.

For many LGBTQ+ people of color, especially those raised in immigrant or conservative households, anxiety becomes a survival response: navigating expectations, staying small to stay safe, or translating your needs in a world that doesn’t always see you.

In therapy, we untangle the layers—gently, at your pace. We listen to the anxious parts of you not as enemies to silence, but as protectors that have been working overtime. Through Internal Family Systems (IFS) and Narrative Therapy, we make space for your full self: the part that’s exhausted, the part that’s scared, and the part that’s still hoping.

You don’t have to carry it all alone anymore. Let’s slow down together and find the calm beneath the noise.

Rejection Sensitivity & Relational Trauma Therapy

If you’re reading this, you might know what it feels like to brace yourself for the next hurt—the family silence, the offhand comment, the micro-rejection that leaves you doubting your worth.

Rejection sensitivity isn’t just being “too sensitive”—it’s your nervous system trying to protect you after years of relational wounds, cultural invisibility, or growing up in spaces where your full self didn’t feel welcome.

For queer folks, especially BIPOC and immigrant-background clients, rejection doesn’t always come from strangers—it often comes from those closest to us. These relational traumas shape how we connect, trust, and love.

In therapy, we explore those wounds with care. We get to know the parts of you that have been hurt, hidden, or hypervigilant. Through IFS and narrative-informed therapy, we help you reclaim your voice, re-pattern your relationships, and connect from a place that feels safer and more true.

Gender & Sexual Identity Exploration

Exploring your gender or sexuality can feel like a homecoming—and also like standing at the edge of a cliff. Especially when cultural expectations, family dynamics, or internalized beliefs tell you your truth is “too much,” “too confusing,” or “too dangerous.”

If you’ve ever felt stuck between who you are and who you’re “supposed” to be, you’re not alone. For many LGBTQ+ folks—especially those with cultural, religious, or immigrant family legacies—identity exploration is tangled with survival.

In therapy, I offer a safe, nonjudgmental space where you can explore, question, and celebrate your identity on your own terms. Together, we’ll untangle shame, clarify desire, and build a sense of self that feels rooted and liberating.

This isn’t just about labels. It’s about finally breathing into your whole self.

Intergenerational Trauma & Family of Origin Therapy

The past doesn’t just stay in the past—it lives in the stories, silences, and survival strategies passed down to us.

Intergenerational trauma shows up in so many ways: conflict with parents, chronic shame, difficulty trusting, feeling like you don’t fully belong anywhere. For many clients, especially those from BIPOC, immigrant, and diasporic families, these patterns run deep and unspoken.

In therapy, we’ll slow down and name what’s been carried—what was never yours to hold, and what still hurts. Using Internal Family Systems and narrative therapy, we’ll work to understand the roles these patterns played and help you rewrite the story so you can move forward without losing yourself.

Religious Trauma & Reclaiming Spirituality

Faith can be a powerful source of belonging—or a place where we were taught to shrink.

If you were raised in a religious tradition that didn’t leave room for your queerness, your body, or your questions, you may carry the pain of being spiritually exiled. And yet, something in you still longs for connection, for meaning, for wholeness.

In therapy, I hold space for clients navigating the harm of religious trauma and the tender path of spiritual reclamation. Whether you’re deconstructing faith, healing from purity culture, or reimagining your spiritual life in affirming ways, you are welcome here.